Dire Warnings

I called a friend in California ( a recent widow ) to check on her . When asked about the situation here , she was given the information from the previous post . It seems she had taken care of her mother , also an Alzheimer's sufferer . She echoed the doctor's warnings about what lay on the horizon for me...incontinence , foul moods , lifting and caring for someone heavier than me (and possibly uncooperative !) , the unresponsive,curled-into-a-fetal -possition condition and final "placement " in a rest home .
I realize honesty is the best policy and that it is better to be informed about what could be ahead from those who have lived through it .I don't want to hear any more about the hideous suffering to come , their collapsing from the overload and the sense of "freedom " they now enjoy . How about a little encouragement...calls to check on me...shared coping skills and elder-care resources ? My hope , of course , is that God , in His infinite mercy and compassion , spares Mother that ordeal...that she passes , peacefully and painlessly in her sleep, here at home...long before the predictions can come to pass . Evading reality ? No , praying for the best for my mother !!