Helpful hints :
* Do call and check on us - 24/7 care is exhausting and lonely.It's nice to hear from the outside world on a regular basis and we value your gentle concern.
* Don't expect more from us than we can give - especially emotionally.We're drained
and overwhelmed as it is and the complications of seeing to the needs of one more
person is more than we can manage right now .
* Find out what we need and supply it.Please don't bring what you think is right.It's a nice
thought,but might not be the help you intended.
*Don't lecture us about what you think we should do/feel/act - you're not us ! If you found
interesting articles,bring them for us to read...when we have a minute.Our window
of opportunity may not last more than that and certainly won't come on your schedule.
*When you say you'll do something for us,please follow through.We can really use the help
and don't need anymore disappointments .
*Realize you're walking into a war zone and we're front-line-battle-weary . Be kind...be
patient.Stay as long as we need you and then please leave .There are routines to be kept
and meds to be given at specified times.We are in this for the long haul...for the love
of our family member and our time is not our own. We don't have the luxury of being
our perfect self...doing all those wonderful things we used to do for you and ourselves.
Because we have to pick our battles,all we can be is our best self at that moment .
Love us anyway and help us get through this,for the benefit of all involved .
I would write a completely different list than the one they have here based on my beliefs that we are to overstretch and push the limits in order to grow into what G-d would have us be.
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